This is a reminder for me and anyone who reads it...
HAVE YOU EVER HEARD THAT GRIEF BRINGS BACK WHAT HAS BEEN LOST, OR THAT WORRY CORRECTS MISTAKES? SO WHY GRIEVE AND WORRY THEN?
We often grieve about things that are already said and done. We too always worry about things that are done in hoping for the best things to happen. Why do we need to grieve and worry? And why do we need to think so much about something when we have done our best in making an effort for that something? And clearly, as the quote above suggests, grieve and worry always brings you nowhere.
I don't know about other people, but I am the worry-type person. I think so much about something that I tend to worry and worry. But I realize that it cannot do anything for me at that time. But what i realize it could do is that when I think so much about this something, the outcome would be much smoother. In other words, I have thought so much about it and preparing myself to face the worst situation, and as a result, i end up doing okay in such thing.
I was so worried thinking about interviews and thus i prepared for them. And in the end, i went through it. Everything is just like that. I think about something. I worry. Then I get myself prepared. Finally, i do okay, Alhamdulillah. But the thing with this quote to me, personally is that it means to just worry and worry after we have worked hard to attain a particular achievement. And while waiting for the results, we worry. This is probably useless. Why? Because...the thing is over. Completely over. So why should we grieve or worry about something that we cannot correct anymore. All we could do is just pray and tawakkal, right? Unless we could do something about it, or we could somehow grab this super power to turn back time, then, probably grieving and worrying might be somewhat useful. That is completely NONSENSE!
Whatever it is, I really want to work my way out of this worrying stuff. I hate being worried. And i get stressed out when i worry a lot. And even if it does make me prepare for the worst situation, I should not let myself worry so much since whatever it is that i'm heading towards is already fixed by Allah. I mean it's okay to worry a bit to just get the gist of initiating an effort, but too much would do me crazy. And above all, shouldn't i always think for the best and think about the best instead of always thinking about the negative side...i think this quote best explains what i'm trying to say;):
DO NOT EXPECT TRIALS AND CALAMITIES, RATHER EXPECT PEACE AND SAFETY AND GOOD HEALTH, IF ALLAH WILLS
But this does not at all mean that we could just sit down and pray & only think about the best that could happen without even trying to accomplish a dream. It's after working so hard for something that we should "not expect trials and calamities" but should keep praying for "peace, safety, and good health" inshaAllah. =)
Wallahua'lam
**the two quotations were kidnapped from someone's email:p**
